Life has a way of throwing us curve balls and fastballs everyday. The outcome and how we handle them as we are going through the storms can be devastating if we don’t stop for a moment and process the why and how to get through them. I have grown to realize that going through storms can be a way of helping us gain more strength and challenge us to look at things differently. My younger self did not understand what my now older self appreciates as growing through the storm.
Every storm brings me new revelations on who I am and how I have gained the emotional resilience that has made me a stronger person, wife, mother and friend. When the storm comes now I have more self-awareness in how to respond and manage my emotions and situations during the storm. My self-awareness helps me weather the storm and find joy during that time as well as prepare me for the calm after the storm.
There will be times when the storm comes and I feel like walking away and throwing up my hands and calling it quits, but my better self knows that growth is on the other side and a life lesson that will strengthen me for the next storm so that I can thrive.
The past few days have been a painful and devastating time for the families who lost their loved ones, others directly affected by the tragedy and our community. These times can test your faith and have you question why and how it could happen. We have been encouraged by the strength, determination and resilience of the students, teachers and our community. As a new member of the community the actions and cohesiveness that we have seen have validated why we moved to this area.
This amazing sunset today also reminded me that God’s beauty and mercy is never ending and the glory seen in the sunset we see everyday. It also reminds me to be thankful for the small things and not take for granted that I am here to see this everyday.
Remember to be happy for the small things that we sometimes take for granted and tell the people around us that we love and care for them. I have hugged and kissed my son so much since last week that he now tell me to stop hugging him or he just jugs me first.
When we live in a world where we have to teach Kindergarten through High School students lock down and active shooter drills, it’s one of despair and a feeling of helplessness as a parent. We send our children to school very day and expect that they will learn, be safe, make new friends, explore new learning and make it home safely. Well, that has forever changed for my family.
We recently relocated to the Parkland area where the shooting occurred at Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School and it has shaken me to my core. How do we shield your 4 -year old angel from all of this sorrow and evil? How do we explain it to him if he asks? These and may other questions have kept me up over the past few days. There was no sleep over the past few nights thinking about what has occurred in our community.
We are realists and know that there is evil in the world and that bad things happen everyday. What we don’t think of or should have to consider, is that this is commonplace and normal. The incidents we are being sensitized to see as normal and occurring at schools is not acceptable and normal. I just cannot see why our leaders and others see that this is the new normal. We know that while in school our son will possibly get scratches and bruises playing, maybe a broken limb playing a sport, loose a tooth playing or by accident or other non life threatening injury. What we can’t fathom is that there is a possibility for this to happen to anyone or ourselves.
Will our new reality be making sure on their way out of the door or dropping them off that we make sure they have their books, lunch and remember their active shooter drill protocol? We should not and cannot be sensitized to thinking that one of the normal occurrences is that he and other children gets gunned down while in school. How do I wrap my mind around the devastation that parents are handling right now with knowing they will never hug their child again, see them compete in their favorite sport, play an instrument, graduate from high school, college, get married and have children. One of our neighbors in our community lost their son in this massacre. The grief is overwhelming for them and I feel helpless in being able to bring any comfort. I can only offer words of sympathy and pray for them to find solace during their time of grief.
My heart is broken for the families and for what we now have to expect as the new normal because there is not enough will for everyone that can change the course we are on the take action. One thing is evident is that the students from Marjory Stoneman Douglas High School have become the leaders in this tragedy and will not stand down and wait to see what will happen. They will have support from our community to bring about the change that is needed to ensure more of our children are not victims of gun violence in our schools.
Every day we hug RJ a little longer and take extra time enjoying the silly moments. It should never be taken for granted that our kids are safe in school. This week has confirmed that for me in the most horrific and painful way.
Praying for the families who lost their children, our community and country. We need something to change.
Today’s Sunset in Parkland after two of the most horrific and sorrowful days for affected families and our community. With all the sorrow, pain and despair that’s upon us this sunset is a reminder of the glory and beauty of nature.
I have been guided by do onto others as you would like them to do onto you. This obviously does not apply when someone has a sick child and have to still take them to school for whatever reason. I get it, there are some situations where parent(s) are unable to take off from work etc. but it is painful for others.
So we have been having a fairly great season and have had no instances of RJ getting sick. We tried to be good parents and made sure that we take the necessary precautions necessary fr the flu season. RJ has had his flu shot and we are cruising right along. Well… Full Stop!!! He comes home today after school and said he was really tired. We did his review of what he learned at school, prepared the Valentine’s Day goodie bags for his class, reviewed and studied his sight words and then he went to play.
He goes to karate and the bookstore and by the time he gets back home he is coughing, eyes watery, felt warm and wanted no part of his dinner. Well that was surprising but what really was shocking was he said he should have taken a nap. RJ has not taken a voluntary nap in his bed for at least a year. If he is in the car and tired he will fall asleep but not happening voluntarily.
He has just passed out after coughing and I can only imagine what the night will hold for me. I am being positive but prepared for a rough night. I am going to need coffee all day tomorrow just to survive.
This has been an amazing week for RJ at school. He has received the “Fruit of the Spirit for Love” for his class, aced all of his sight words and had top rating for his behavior all week. We teach RJ to be kindhearted, caring and respectful of everyone regardless of their culture or background. He is such a loving son and genuinely cares about people he meets. This is the best Valentine’s Day present that we could receive.
If someone in his class is sick he includes them in his prayers every night and keeps them there until he replaces their name with someone else that may be sick. He loves to open the door for his mommy and anytime he sees a woman or girl walking to the door he runs to hold it open.
It is heart warming to see what we are teaching him being put into action at school, home and when he is out. We had a great afternoon celebrating with a special trip to a new adventure location. The video of our exciting trip will be posted next week.
Great Week RJ! Thanks for our early Valentine’s DayPresent.
When I was growing up and with my daughter there was no option to decide if you were a vegetarian at 3 years old but my son is standing steadfast in his decision. He is now 4 years old and we are in the same place of him not eating any meat. It is one of the most puzzling things that I have experienced with my son and I think I have figured out how it happened. As we started teaching him about animals and watching videos of them and in his books we noticed that he started refusing to eat any meat. He kept saying he does not like meat.
We eat pretty healthy in our home with fruits and vegetables but we do not eat meat and stay away from fried foods. As a baby we would feed RJ homemade prepared fruits, vegetables, oatmeal, applesauce and then started adding chicken hot dogs, dinosaur chicken nuggets, broiled fish, spaghetti with turkey meat sauce, rice and ground turkey.
Well, I have had to get creative in making sure he is getting all of the required nutrition and not lose my mind in trying to figure out what to feed him. He now eats pasta with cheese, tuna sandwiches, boiled eggs, cheese pizza, salads, grilled cheese, yogurt, broccoli and every vegetable you put in front of him or almost anything that does not have meat. We also supplement with pediasure, vitamins and making sure he gets protein from other foods.
His doctors have assured me that he is healthy and ahead of his grown percentile. But I can’t help but scratch my head everyday trying to be creative in making sure he gets the right nutrition. He proudly says he is a vegetarian and not a meatatarian (if there is such a name). I have no idea how he came up with that name. His new saying now is that he is a herbivore not a carnivore. Who knew? I think we are in for run with him being more determined not to eat meat. I hear from some moms that they have had this experience and that it goes away after a few years and some say it continued through their teenage years.
Would appreciate hearing from other parents who have had similar experiences or going through it now. Please share any ideas on fun and tasty kids recipes you have tried.
We had a surprise visit to Toys R US for RJ to pick out a special toy. RJ loves airplanes and has been talking about them all week after seeing a movie recently. We thought this would be a great way to reward him for having a super fantastic week at school and home. Come along and let’s have some fun!
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At 48 years old we were blessed with a vivacious and healthy baby boy Kenneth Jr.- aka “RJ”, I was expecting for my world to be different but not for it to be literally blown to bits. As I settled back into having a newborn after 22 years of not having to change diapers, breastfeeding, literally no sleep pass 2-3 hours a day and the emotional imbalance your body goes through with postpartum I realized that I was going to be in for a world of difference with our new son. I am now 53 years old and it seems that I will have no opportunity to grow old anytime soon but who wants to get old anyway. The trade off has been some of the most amazing moments of my life. This is my story and how I began my journey as a generational mom. Hope to be able to share some the good, bad, funny and sometimes outrageous times in this space among other fun stuff.